Wow. I can’t imagine the restraint that you needed to stick to the decision not to tell. Such a moral dilemma. It sounds like you’re at peace (as much as possible right now) with your decision and that’s the best gauge.

I’m sorry you had the rug pulled out from under you — what a horrible experience for you.

Hopefully your writing will help in the healing process.

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